Everyone has some kind of mental issues. They call them phobias, fears, depression, anxiety, or just plain craziness. Everyone also chooses to avoid admitting them. They fear how others will see them. Then they want others to not see their issues.
Where do these things come from? Well some will say they got it from their parents. It is inherited. It is learned. Others will blame life events, births and death. Some say you are born this ways, others say you were damaged at some point.
So my issues are simple...
Well I tell you what I will tell you mine, if you tell me yours.
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Sunday, May 30, 2010
Wednesday, May 26, 2010
Clothing
There are several aspects to clothing. How to get it. How to clean it. How to keep it good.
How to get it. First there are some cloths I just won't wear used: swimwear, underwear, socks and everyday shoes. Hubs is a hard to find size so the majority of his clothes are purchased new. For these we shop sales and use gift money.
My kids get one new outfit to start school. New shirt, pants, shoes, underwear. I buy underwear and jeans and put them on lay a away. Then I search yard sales, thrift store for the rest. Every once in a while we score hand me downs. If there are any holes in our wardrobe I fill them with articles gotten on sale.
Laundry is a very serious matter. I use the following products: liquid laundry detergent (Tide in summer, Xtra during the rest of the year) bleach for whites, dry bleach for colors, and fabric softener. Stains are constant battle. Fortunately with so many recycled belonging, if the stain does come out it isn't a complete disaster.
Keep it good. Play cloths are for play and school clothes are for school. I have my kids change when they get home. This does increase laundry, but the good cloths last longer. I follow the same rule.
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How to get it. First there are some cloths I just won't wear used: swimwear, underwear, socks and everyday shoes. Hubs is a hard to find size so the majority of his clothes are purchased new. For these we shop sales and use gift money.
My kids get one new outfit to start school. New shirt, pants, shoes, underwear. I buy underwear and jeans and put them on lay a away. Then I search yard sales, thrift store for the rest. Every once in a while we score hand me downs. If there are any holes in our wardrobe I fill them with articles gotten on sale.
Laundry is a very serious matter. I use the following products: liquid laundry detergent (Tide in summer, Xtra during the rest of the year) bleach for whites, dry bleach for colors, and fabric softener. Stains are constant battle. Fortunately with so many recycled belonging, if the stain does come out it isn't a complete disaster.
Keep it good. Play cloths are for play and school clothes are for school. I have my kids change when they get home. This does increase laundry, but the good cloths last longer. I follow the same rule.
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Shelter
First remember the goal was to not lose our house. We were willing to do anything we had to accomplish this. Yes even move in with my mother, thinking in would take a month or so to get on our feet. What was supposed to be a 3 month stay, turned into a 10 month adventure.
Before doing this yourself you have to realise one thing no matter what. I was family, my kids were family, but my husband was not. In the ten months we lived there he definitely bore the brunt of the negative. All of the idiosyncrasies will come out. Eating habits, hygiene, humor, laundry, cleaning habits everything can cause dissension. Can and will cause dissension.
After a motivating argument with my sister, I left my mother's house for a less then satisfactory replacement. We moved to a month by month rental, it is a single wide trailer with half a replaced roof and half a roof that needs replaced. Part of the floor is weak. The doors are warped. We moved because we didn't think we would be here this long. It was 3 years this month.
In the first year we were here my husband developed a medical condition that caused him to be off work for 4 months with no pay and no unemployment. I had started school 2 weeks before this. I continued.
In the second year I got a full time job and worked a second job. Hubby went to school and worked. We were never here. So we stayed because it gave us a place to live and it is annoying but not dangerous.
In year 3 it is time to move, we just need a place in this area that we can afford.
Wish us luck!
Before doing this yourself you have to realise one thing no matter what. I was family, my kids were family, but my husband was not. In the ten months we lived there he definitely bore the brunt of the negative. All of the idiosyncrasies will come out. Eating habits, hygiene, humor, laundry, cleaning habits everything can cause dissension. Can and will cause dissension.
After a motivating argument with my sister, I left my mother's house for a less then satisfactory replacement. We moved to a month by month rental, it is a single wide trailer with half a replaced roof and half a roof that needs replaced. Part of the floor is weak. The doors are warped. We moved because we didn't think we would be here this long. It was 3 years this month.
In the first year we were here my husband developed a medical condition that caused him to be off work for 4 months with no pay and no unemployment. I had started school 2 weeks before this. I continued.
In the second year I got a full time job and worked a second job. Hubby went to school and worked. We were never here. So we stayed because it gave us a place to live and it is annoying but not dangerous.
In year 3 it is time to move, we just need a place in this area that we can afford.
Wish us luck!
Jobs lead to shelter, food and security
Upon deciding to leave our home and life style, we moved in with my mom. As I mentioned earlier we had a plan, we just didn't follow it. Instead we settled in, put kids in school, and took a look at our finances; deciding we were in big trouble. We were never going to recover. Depression settled in.
Don't let this happen to you. If you allow it to you will fail. Instead get up and just do it. If it is wrong, so what.
At this time hubby was working a job he hated, but he was working. I was on unemployment and should have gotten ut there and gotten a job. I "tried" but the lure of staying home was too great. Plus we took a paper route and I did the route most of the time. It became easy to not have (another) job.
So then the pressure became too great and I got a series of jobs that really sucked. Clerk in convenience store, receptionist in a family owned screen printing business, and finally telemarketer. All of these paid a decent wage but nothing great, all of them I walked away from with a clear desire to never do that job again. One of them I was let go from because I didn't niche with the employees. What? That was a crushing blow.
Working is an important task. It keeps you out there. Bad jobs keep you motivated to get a better job.
Solution: Hubs stayed at crappy job until he found less crappy job and finally job he likes. I took a position with a bank until it sucked and moved on to a job a can stand until a better one comes along.
Don't let this happen to you. If you allow it to you will fail. Instead get up and just do it. If it is wrong, so what.
At this time hubby was working a job he hated, but he was working. I was on unemployment and should have gotten ut there and gotten a job. I "tried" but the lure of staying home was too great. Plus we took a paper route and I did the route most of the time. It became easy to not have (another) job.
So then the pressure became too great and I got a series of jobs that really sucked. Clerk in convenience store, receptionist in a family owned screen printing business, and finally telemarketer. All of these paid a decent wage but nothing great, all of them I walked away from with a clear desire to never do that job again. One of them I was let go from because I didn't niche with the employees. What? That was a crushing blow.
Working is an important task. It keeps you out there. Bad jobs keep you motivated to get a better job.
Solution: Hubs stayed at crappy job until he found less crappy job and finally job he likes. I took a position with a bank until it sucked and moved on to a job a can stand until a better one comes along.
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